A letter to all of us who are exhausted, outraged, and still here.

I'm writing to you about something I feel in my body and in my soul.

The exhaustion.

Not tiredness. Exhaustion. The kind that settles into your bones. The kind that is still there after a full night of sleep. The kind that makes ordinary things feel heavier than they should.

I feel it. And I know you feel it too.

We are carrying something enormous right now. And most of us are carrying it without anyone acknowledging the weight of it.

So I want to start there. Before the call to action. Before anything else.

You are allowed to feel all of this.

The outrage. The exhaustion. The powerlessness. The confusion about why they keep getting away with it. The fear of giving up. The shame of what our country has become. The worry for our grandchildren.

All of it. At the same time. Without having to choose between grief and action, between anger and tenderness, between fighting and resting.

You are allowed to hold a...

Originally published in 2021. Updated February 2026.

When something goes wrong in your life, your relationships, even in the world around you...where does your mind go?

If you’re like many thoughtful, capable women I work with, it turns inward.

What did I do?
What did I miss?
How did I get this wrong?

It feels responsible.
It feels like maturity.

But often, it’s a habit.

You don’t lack confidence.

You’ve learned to blame yourself first.

You don't have to blame yourself

In fact, it won’t help you in any way.   

For sure, it’s easy to get stuck listening to the blaming and shaming voices inside of you that tell you that you did something wrong…spiraling you down into negativity, into funky land.

Those are the times when nothing seems right. You feel off but you don't even know what's wrong.

It might be that you woke up feeling happy and everything was going great and then, BAM.

Some small thing happens.

Your phone goes off in the middle of a yoga class, with a voice messa...

Lately, most of us have been living with a quiet heaviness running in the background of our day-to-day lives. 

Even when we’re functioning, caring, and doing what needs to be done, something feels unnerving underneath it all.

There are times when what is happening in the world seeps into our bodies, whether we want it to or not. We carry more tension, more vigilance, more grief, often without realizing how much it's affecting us.

I've written recently about how unsettling things feel. That matters. When the world feels unhinged
But today I want to talk about something quieter and just as important.

How do we stay human in times like these?

What We’re Carrying Without Naming

When the world feels chaotic, our nervous systems take a hit.

We can feel fatigued from the constant onslaught of what we see and hear. It can feel like being pummeled by a wave that keeps coming. We get pulled under, surface for air, and then another wave hits.

There have been times in my life when I felt...

Last weekend, Thom and I packed up our Tacoma truck and headed to the Lost Coast of California—one of the most remote and pristine places on the California coast, where Highway 1 had to turn inland and where waves crash fiercely. 

We joined four other Jeep/off-road adventurers, people who tackle trails like the Rubicon (a beast of a route, from what I’ve heard). These are serious folks. Rugged, skilled, and thankfully also warm and fun.

We camped at Usal Beach, fog drifting around us, damp air clinging to everything. I bundled up with blankets and jackets, my knit cap pulled down tight. Even as I sat around a beachside campfire wrapped in layers, I felt something start to shift inside me.

That something was a reset.

Because even in the cold, in the wet fog, even with news from the world swirling in my mind, I could hear the ocean calling me back to myself. Pelicans dove for fish. The sea roared. And I remembered how important it is to get quiet.

The next day, we caravanned along a...

Does it ever feel like your to-do list has a mind of its own? Between work deadlines, personal goals, and the never-ending demands of daily life, staying organized can feel like a full-time job. Oh, have I been there... trying to juggle everything while still carving out time for self-care or just sitting to have a nice cup of tea.

Over the years, I’ve discovered that the right organization tools can make a huge difference—not just in getting things done but in how you feel while doing them. The key? You don’t want the app to feel like adding a new habit; you want something that fits seamlessly into your routine already. When an app feels natural and easy to use, you’re so much more likely to stick with it—and actually reap the benefits of feeling less frazzled and more in control.

In this article, I’m sharing my top picks for the best organization apps. Each one is thoughtfully chosen to tackle a specific need, from time tracking to task management. Let’s find the perfect app to hel...

Have you ever asked someone how they're doing and they reply with the all too familiar, "I'm good... Just busy!"

Modern life tends to mean we keep ourselves busy. And while I am definitely one to advocate for less busy and more mindful balance, I get it - Life is full. Whether you’re balancing work projects, family events, or personal goals, the best daily planner app can bring a sense of ease, flow, and productivity to your day.

Over the years, I’ve seen clients experience real transformations by incorporating this simple tool.

It’s incredible how one app can help manage stress, boost productivity, and even create a more harmonious family life. When you take away that frazzled feeling and impending burnout, you rediscover yourself—more patient, more present, and truly available.

In this list, I’m sharing my top picks for daily planner apps that blend functionality with simplicity. These are productivity tools designed to work seamlessly with real life, decluttering your to dos and...

When I brew myself an herbal tea, I always feel a bit like a medicine woman.

There’s something empowering about pulling down jars filled with precious petals, leaves, stems, and roots—listening to my body as it guides me in choosing the right ones and knowing just how much to use. It's a ritual that’s become a cherished part of my self-care routine.

In addition to some incredible adaptogenic supplements, I’ve relied on herbal teas to support my mental health and nervous system. They help me stay calm, manage daily stress, and stay grounded when life throws the unexpected my way.

As both a life coach and therapist, I’ve been sharing these plant allies with others, guiding them to use these natural remedies to find their own sense of calm.

There's magic in tea. There's comfort and there's medicine.

In this fast-paced world, we all need a solid team of allies to help us live our best lives. Herbal teas are one of my go-to supports—gentle yet powerful companions on the journey to inne...

As a life coach and therapist with over 30 years of experience, I've seen how stress and fatigue can have a huge impact on my clients' day to day experience.

But sometimes, just a small lifestyle shift is all it takes to get back on track.

I learned this lesson when I discovered Rhodiola—an incredible herb that’s become a trusted ally not just for me, but for many women I know navigating life and the many natural changes that come our way.

Unlike those other supplements that end up gathering dust in the cabinet, when I found the best Rhodiola supplement that truly worked in unison with my body, it became a part of my daily regimen.

Every product on this list has met my strict quality standards—they’re safe and effective, and there’s an option for every budget.

So, maybe it’s time to clear out that cabinet and make room for a supplement that will genuinely support your journey to optimal vitality. After all, self-care often means leaning on the plant world for a little extra suppor...

If you’re here looking for self-care ideas for women, it’s because you’ve done the first step of self-care - saying “yes” to self-care. That’s huge!

Please don’t let this go unnoticed or uncelebrated because it's often just too easy to make excuses, forget to do it, or fall victim to our blindspots keeping us from self care.

But now what?

How do you spend that precious time you’ve carved out just for you? It can be a little intimidating, right? 

But let me be that little birdie in your ear reminding you, “Any act of self-care is enough.” Ladies, don’t let yourself stress out over self-care! Let’s make it easy and restorative. Really, that’s the whole point. 

I made this list of self care ideas specifically with busy, badass women in mind. (Hey, Mamas!) 

There’s no wrong way to use this list, but here are a few ideas:

• Pick a few for your self-care Sunday lineup.
• Print it out and keep the list on your fridge for when a spare moment pops up.
• Pick one to incorporate into your da...

Summer is the best time to feel like yourself. It’s a perfect time to savor every day.

Summertime has the potential to help you:

1. Rejuvenate and reset
2. Embrace joy and laughter
3. Unleash creativity
4. Prioritize ultimate self-care

When we're having fun, we put aside the worries, the goals, the stress, the have to’s. We can look at where we’ve been and where we’re going. 

Let's start with what you want 

Sometimes, we're so busy, that we don't even know what we want and we don't take the time to figure it out.  

Ask yourself these questions:

What would make this an unforgettable summer? 

What if it was the first summer I got to ________

If I had all the free time I wanted this summer, I'd ________

The best summer I ever had was _________.

These questions can give you clues to what you're longing for and what makes you happy. 

Sit down right now and write it out. Get out your journal and dream. 

I give you full permission to dream. 

Want to go to Hawaii? To some exotic loca...